How To Overcome Depression In 5 Simple Steps

Just Follow These Five Simple Steps

It's the Holidays again, and whether you are alone or covered up in family, there's sometimes no easy way to get through it. Dealing with your family can be challenging during the year, but it seems that this time of year brings out the best in people. Being alone during the Holidays also takes a very strong person. It is hard to stay happy and focused when there is no one to talk to but yourself. Both of these situations call for some extra steps to make sure that you can get through this time of year in one piece.

Being around family sometimes makes us think of all the times we have failed. It seems like when your brother shows up, he can recount ever time you humiliated yourself and in great detail. Or your sister has been stewing about something that you had no idea she was upset about, and starts spewing things about you that you wish she didn't know. Family can be the most upsetting thing in our lives. They sometimes are very self-centered and don't care that you are just hanging on by a thread to your sanity. They want all the attention whether good or bad.

Being alone can be very hard on us also. There is nothing worse than getting stuck in a mind-trap about all the people we have had in our lives that just sailed through. Or making a list of our failures throughout the year that we wish we could redo. Then there's the frustration of the new year coming and we desperately want to make changes but we don't know where to start. Do we lose a little weight? Do we get more organized? Or, do we start a new relationship?
So many things can start weighing us down and pretty soon we don't even want to get out of bed anymore. Our food tastes bland, nothing seems to fit, and we don't want to talk to anyone about it.

Don't give up! I know it is not easy once you have dug yourself a rut to get out of it. It take determination and willpower. I have been there, I know what it is like. Here are five simple things you can do to help you overcome that dark cloud that want to hang over your head everyday.
First, you only feel as good as you look. What I mean is that if you feel like everyone is judging you when you go outside, take a look at yourself from their perspective. What an eye-opener. I took a course one time that taught if you want to be successful you have to look the part. It's the same thing when you want to feel better. You have to not go for putting on some comfortable sweatpants to go to work in and put in the effort to look how you want to feel. Put on your favorite shirt or blouse. Try that new hairstyle you have been wanting to try. Do what you can to make yourself feel better by doing your best to look successful.

Second, stop the negative self-talk. You have played that recording long enough. You have re-lived those moments everyday in your head. Stop it! Read some books online about how to train yourself not to put yourself down. How to think positive thoughts that bring about good feelings, not bad. Find one good thing you like about yourself and keep repeating that to yourself and believe it. Keep looking inside until you find several things. Keep working at it until you don't have those negative thoughts anymore.

Third, get rid of toxic people in your life. Anyone who is not speaking good things to you. A neighbor who has only bad things to say about everyone that you bump into in the hallway. Don't let them drag you down and put you in a bad mood. A co-worker who seems to search you out at lunch just so they can have someone to complain to. Don't let those people sap your strength. They are only wanting someone to feel as bad as they do. Don't let them. Make a list of everyone you come in contact with. List the benefits they bring to your life and the things that bring you down about them. If there are not an overwhelming amount of benefits then get rid of them. I'm not advocating being shallow, but you are the company you keep. Ask them nicely not to talk that way around you and if they don't comply, then move on.

Fourth, don't be who you are not. Don't try to be what other people need, be what you need. Don't try to fit in with the crowd and go against what you feel is right. You will end up feeling bad and rejected because nobody likes you for who you are. Be who you were meant to be. Maybe you aren't everyone's cup of tea but who cares. You will feel so much better about yourself being who you were made to be. Be an individual, stand out in a crowd, love who you are.

And finally, the fifth. Keep doing these things I have outlined here. Get a calendar or a planner and keep tract of every little milestone you accomplish. Celebrate once a week and give yourself a treat. You deserve it! You are valuable as a person and you need to recognize it. Find things to do that make you feel valuable. Celebrate every time you accomplish one of your goals. You will find yourself smiling more, being more cheerful, and more successful. Everyone will start seeing a change in you. Just go for it!

If you try this, it will work. If you try it and don't feel like it is working, don't give up. It has to become a part of you, just like breathing. You will find it is working when you don't have to think about it to do it. It will be you. Good luck and God Bless.

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